Erykah Badu & Janelle Monáe Introduce 2013 Billboard Icon Award Honoree: Prince
Granny stopped in the doorway. Her shoulders rose. She turned around very slowly.
“What did you say?” she said. “Did these old ears deceive me, and don’t say they did because they didn’t.”
“Sorry,” said Esk. “Force of habit.”
“I can see you’ve been getting ideas below your station,” said Granny coldly.
blleeeeeeerrrr i saw an internet thing on depression and it set me off and now im a mess fuck
the sj backlash to fetishizing gay male pairings has become an idea that casual homophobic(straight) liberals have latched on to as an argument against all m/m pairings and it’s getting really annoying please stop
I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS POST FOR SO LONG THANK YOU
bless your face and bless this post
the vast majority of m/m slash shippers I have known in my decade of fandom have been queer women. maybe it’s because, gee, I don’t know, the strongest non-het relationships in most media are between men. I’d have more femmeslash ships if I fucking had more female characters who actually appear together in the same goddamn scene, let alone talk and form meaningful relationships of any kind.
as media is now, you are more likely to find interesting and nuanced canon relationships between men than you will find between women. (let’s also remember that girls are trained from a young age to relate to male characters - through assigned reading in school to the main characters in their favorite books and cartoons. male characters are more fleshed out and get more screentime and are emphasized more and are thus more relatable for a lot of women.)
punishing queer women for the media’s lack of queer women (and women in general) is fucking ridiculous. the fact that most fandoms have more m/m slash than femmeslash is a negative reflection of media and societal norms, NOT necessarily the people in the fandom. fandom is reflective of this shit, not the cause. fandom trends are only symptoms of a larger problem. I will say this as many times as it takes: M/M FANDOMS ARE LARGELY FEMALE SPACES AND PUNISHING THEM FOR MEDIA AND SOCIETAL NORMS THAT HARM THEM IS FUCKING STUPID AND HELPS NO ONE
straight people who rail against m/m slash shippers for special ally sj brownie points: you are not fucking helping and you need to stop. this is not your place and not your job.
what a good, good post
HOUSE MUSIC (born in Chicago’s Black gay scene, originated from soul and disco)
ELECTRONIC DANCE MUSIC (EDM) (based on disco)
THE ROLLING STONES (“inspired” by blues musician Muddy Waters, NAMED THEIR GODDAMN BAND AFTER ONE OF HIS SONGS, admitted to using him as inspiration)
THE BEATLES (cited Elvis Presley (who stole from Black musicians/choir groups), Little Richard, Chuck Berry, etc as inspiration/earliest influences)
THE CLASH (COPIED SKA MUSICIANS, EVEN WROTE A SONG ABOUT HOW WHITE PEOPLE SHOULD RIOT ABOUT SHIT THEY CARE ABOUT LIKE BLACK PEOPLE DO ABOUT RACISM)
PRETTY MUCH ALL OF YOUR CLASSIC ROCK FAVES
PUNK ROCK (built of garage rock, which comes from rock n roll, which comes from blues, which comes from Black people & ska/rocksteady, which comes from Black people)
COUNTRY MUSIC (born in the American south from Blues and Western folk music, which was born of gospel and Cajun music)
WE OWN YOUR FAVES
GET OVER IT
we don’t need to “teach girls to say no”, we need to teach boys to take “no” for an answer so that girls who learn to say no, who already say no, who’ve been saying no can feel like it’s even a viable option that’ll have an effect in the first place
Also: we don’t need to “teach girls to say no,” we need to teach girls to say “no” when they don’t want something.
My sex ed class taught girls lots of ways to say “no” to sex. The problem was that they didn’t teach that this had any connection to your actual desires—it was just something you had to do. Which is not empowering; when you teach “you’re supposed to say no; it’s not about what you want,” the implication that girls’ desires and decisions don’t matter came through loud and clear.
It also implied, to the boys in the class, that pressuring girls and ignoring “no” were the only way they could ever have sex. If girls are supposed to say “no” all the time, regardless of what they want, then maybe a girl who says “no” doesn’t really mean it. And if girls are supposed to say “no” all the time, but heterosexual sex clearly still happens… it normalizes the idea that boys are not just allowed but expected to not take “no” for an answer.
“And if two girls kissing offends you….well, you need to grow up” - Graham Norton on Finland’s Eurovison entry